When I got to Troy's classroom, I took a moment to look around. I noticed a poster on the wall that listed the birthdays of all the students. I looked at October, expecting to see the child's name from the birthday invitation. It wasn't there. I started to panic. I thought back to the invitation I had left sitting on the counter. Troy's name wasn't on it anywhere! What if he hadn't been invited to this party? What if it was a mistake? What would I do? (Side note: I have a tendency to jump to the worst-case scenario.)
So, when I got home, I immediately asked Troy about the boy. I asked him how they know one another. He couldn't answer me. I asked if they had been in kindergarten or first grade together, and he said they had not. He told me that the child had given him the invitation before school in the cafeteria. I was terrified again that a mistake had been made.
So, after bedtime, I called the number on the invitation. I explained to the mom what had transpired. She laughed and said, "Let me give you some background...." She proceeded to tell me that her son had never had a birthday party with invited peers before. She said he has autism--Asperger's Syndrome--and that they were nervous about how this would even go. He gets overwhelmed by noise and groups. She had given him 25 invitations and told him to invite his classmates and any friends he wanted to. She told me that she was confident he was invited.
I could hear my voice crack as I said to her, "Let me give you a little background for Troy...." I told her that just last week I had been at an ARD meeting, where we discussed and worked out the detials to move forward in assessing him for Asperger's Syndrome. I told her about Koby, too. In our discussion, we tried to figure out how they might know one another. We figured that it must be from working with the behavior specialist on campus.
She told me that the party is the afternoon of the Autism Speaks Walk, which they are attending. She told me that we were absolutely welcome to come over after the walk and before the party for the boys to spend more time together and so Troy could get comfortable in that setting.
I was trying so very hard not to bawl the entire time. I could hear my voice crack over and over again.
I thanked her and told her I was so excited to meet her and her son, and we hung up. A few moments later, I received a text message from her. It said her son had told her "Troy is his friend and rides his [special education] bus with him." It gave me even more peace of mind and such joy that these two children have found one another. I'm hoping it's the start of a wonderful, unique relationship! :)